by Jasmine Berry
Since the glamour of black and white TV, fashion on-screen has always been a major visual element for viewers, sometimes with audiences tuning in just to see the clothes. Whether you love the fashion, the characters, or both, you are not alone. Not wanting to spoil the entire list for anyone, here are a few of the most fashionable black women to ever grace the small screen — and a few non-brown honorable mentions.
OLIVIA POPE, “SCANDAL”
Ahhh Olivia Pope! She always has on a immaculate suit, simple accessories and a coat you just want to snatch off her back through the TV! Olivia makes the most basic palette of white, gray and brown look amazing every Thursday night.
JOAN CLAYTON, “GIRLFRIENDS”
From “Sex and the City” to Joan Clayton from “Girlfriends,” this show had black women across America tuning in every week not just for the story line, but to see what Joan was going to wear. It also helps that in real life actress Tracee Ellis Ross is effortlessly fly.
WHITLEY GILBERT, “A DIFFERENT WORLD”
Known as the southern belle of the show, Whitley often wore tailored suits, couture gowns and the most expensive jewelry and designer bags her daddy’s money could buy– until he cut her off.
Over the years, Steve Harvey’s empire has grown to include comedy, radio, movies, game show hosting and daytime TV. And as the comedian continues to make strides in his career, he says he doesn’t plan on let anything stop him — not even “racist Hollywood.”
In a recent interview with the Hollywood Reporter, “The Steve Harvey Show” host said he’s learned through the nearly 20 years of his career that “Hollywood is very racist.”
“Hollywood is more racist than America is. They put things on TV that they think the masses will like,” he said. “Well, the masses have changed. The election of President Obama should prove that. And television should look entirely different. Kerry Washington should not be the first African American female to head up a drama series in 40 years. In 40 years! That’s crazy.”
With his experience in the industry, Harvey said he’s learned to navigate Hollywood by creating multidimensional projects that don’t focus on race, or particularly African Americans.
Judging by his longevity, looks like his plan has been successful.
What do you think of Steve Harvey’s statement? Do you think Hollywood is racist?
UK soul veteran Omar Lye-Fook preps his first new release in 7 years, with the announcement that his forthcoming The Man LP and title track will be dropping soon. Following a new deal with Freestyle Records and a recent video for the track, the singer assured fans that the album would arrive sometime this spring. The album’s title track and first single is scheduled to drop May 6th via an EP featuring remixes of Omar’s material from Shafiq Husayn, Scratch Professor and Maddslinsky. The release will also include a revamped take on the Omar classic “There’s Nothing Like This” featuring Pino Palladino of Soultronics fame. The project also features a duet with Caron Wheeler and a bit of help from Jamiroquai‘s Stuart Zender. Check the tracklist below. Scroll down to check out the snippets from the EP. The LP is coming. Listen to album snippets here.
Omar The Man tracklist:
2. The Man
3. Come On Speak To Me
4. I Can Listen
5. Bully feat. The Scratch Professor
6. Treat You feat. Caron Wheeler
7. Fuck War, Make Love
8. High Heels feat. Hidden Jazz Quartet
9. I Love Being With You
10. There’s Nothing Like This feat. Pino Palladino
11. Eeni Meeni Myni Mo
12. When You Touch We Touch
13. Ordinary Day feat. Stuart Zender
Whenever anyone talks about wanting to lose weight, what’s the first thing that happens?
Someone mentions a diet.
Oh, you know you’ve heard it before. Where someone eats only mashed potatoes for breakfast, lunch and a snack, or only eats grapefruit for breakfast and lunch, or only sips some weird cayenne pepper kool aid concoction for three weeks straight and before you know it, you’ll be fierce! Fit! Flawless!
You know why diets feel like the best way to accomplish your weight loss goal? They’re easy. Do X, get Y in response. If you’re given a regimen, it’s that easy to follow, and it promises to give you the results you want, why on Earth would you pass it up? And, if you’re limiting yourself to only eating a food that you actually enjoy? There’s no reason in the world for you to turn your back on that.
What we never do, though, is delve into the realities of dieting and why it works. If weight loss is simply about calories in and calories out, then dieting is simply a quicker way of limiting your calories in with less planning. It’s glorified auto-pilot eating. You don’t have to learn about what part of your habits caused you to gain weight. You don’t have to learn how to eat for your body and your activity levels. You don’t even have to learn how to cook the foods you like differently. You cheat the system; you limit yourself to a handful of foods, inadvertently cut calories, and boom. Weight loss.
Except…without fail, the weight almost always comes back.
Because you didn’t learn which foods were causing your weight gain, because you didn’t learn which habits were causing you to pack on the pounds, because you didn’t learn how to eat for your activity levels… you’ll inevitably put the weight back on. Because you restricted yourself to a handful of foods for an extended period of time, you’ll put the pounds back on as soon as you hop off your diet.
And, because you probably restricted your caloric intake far beyond reasonable levels, you also probably lost the invaluable muscle that burns almost three times as many calories per hour as fat, which means you’ve damaged your metabolism, which means you’ve negatively affected your ability to successfully keep the weight off.
This is why diets are ridiculous: they are plans for losing weight, that have no forethought into how a dieter should keep the weight off. Anyone can lose, but how you lose that weight should be directly tied into how you keep it off. Are you going to only eat grapefruit and mashed potatoes for breakfast? Or are you going to learn how to eat a breakfast that is not only tasty, but nutritious and within your allotted calories? Are you going to sip cayenne pepper cocktails forever, or are you going to figure out that you shouldn’t be packing away an entire sleeve of cookies in a day? Are you going to find ways to enjoy what you eat and still eat nutritiously in a way that preserves your figure?
If so, then your best bet is to skip the “diet.” Learn what your body likes. Understand what it needs. And, rest assured, your body will thank you for it!
Courtesy of ErikaNicole Kendall via MadameNoire.com
The backseat of my car is an Elephant Graveyard made of very expensive, very beautiful shoes. In the recessed space directly behind the driver’s seat you will find the discarded remains of shoes of every stripe – heels, flats, peep toes and tennis – and it’s getting kind of ridiculous. Every time I change from work shoes to riding boots, or from my Tom’s to club shoes, the pair that I had on first gets chucked behind me in the car. If I have to take them into the office with me they usually get wrapped up in a Target bag. My friends know what a mess I am, especially when it comes to shoes so most of the time they roll their eyes at me. Sometimes they ask though, “Why don’t you just put them where they belong?”
Because, ain’t nobody got time fuh that!
Most days I carry two or three bags (purse, lunch, laptop bag) to the office. Usually I’m scrambling to get out of the house in the morning, so everything is tossed into my ‘bags’ as I jet out the door to keep from missing a morning meeting. Needless to say a lot of times I feel like a bag lady, word to Badu. So when I was asked to check the ShoeAlong, a fancy footwear carrier that slips over your purse, my first thought was ‘yeah right.’ For one thing, I’m the type of girl who’d rather throw shoes into one of those huge plastic Sterilite bins than install a California Closet. For another, I’m super hard on my stuff.
I was low-key high-key impressed with the ShoeAlong. It’s made of neoprene (the fabric used for lunch bags and water bottle covers), so it was incredibly lightweight but sturdy. The one I got was black, with a pretty lavender lining on the inside. This is important because I love pastels, but I am also messy and having a black outside means it won’t get dirty quickly. I slipped some of my ‘lightly broken in’ busted downwork flats to give it a whirl. Luckily it was big enough to fit my shoes, and there were cool little snaps that kept each shoe in its own compartment that kept them from jostling around.
So here’s how it works: there is a band that slips the ShoeAlong over your purse handle. So easy and quick. It’s pretty sleek too, and the neoprene fabric helped shoe smells inside the bag, instead of wafting out into the open. It was nice to have an actual space to put my shoes and I didn’t get the sideways glances that usually accompanied my grocery bag shoe carriers. And after using it for a few days, the pile of shoes behind my driver’s seat slowly began to deplete because I was actually taking my shoes inside instead of letting the chill in my car. Definitely an improvement.
So what do you think? Would you give the ShoeAlong a shot?
Though we may like to suspend belief, headlines continue to shed light on some of the serious health dangers of fast food.
Some of the recurring problems at franchises such as McDonalds, Taco Bell, Wendy’s, and Burger King were rodent droppings, insects, food borne illnesses, debris and grime on counters and in prep areas, and poor employee sanitation. Given that about 25% of Americans eat fast food everyday, that’s millions of opportunities to be exposed to something nasty, or worse, a pathogen that could make you sick.
Diseases from fast food…
The high levels of calories, fat and sodium in most fast food can eventually lead to other health problems. For example, a study published in the “Journal of the American Heart Association” found that eating significant amounts of fast food can contribute to atherosclerosis, another term for clogged arteries, which can increase your risk of conditions like heart attack and stroke. Fast food can also contribute to an increased risk of arthritis, sleep apnea, some kinds of cancer, diabetes and liver disease.
Speaking of diabetes & obesity & high blood pressure…
All three of these diseases rank shockingly high in the Black community, and fast food is not helping the situation.
For example, one popular fast food hamburger contains about 540 calories and 29 g of fat. It contains 10 g of saturated fat and 1.5 g of trans fat. The sodium content is 1,040 g. Eating meals like this force your body to pay a very high price in negative dietary elements, like calories, fat and sodium, for relatively small amounts of nutritional value, such as protein.
What about how that burger is packaged?
Many wrappers and packaging materials used to contain fast food are coated with perfluoroalkyls. Perfluoroalkyls are a type of chemical that can repel both oil and water, preventing grease from the food from soaking through the packaging. However, these chemicals are actually toxic to humans, and prolonged exposure can lead to increased risk of cancer, tumors, infertility and other health conditions.
What is the best ab exercise? What’s the best way to tone every angle of your stomach, including your obliques?
It’s called…a plank. What is a plank? Quite simply, it’s an isometric exercise for the abs (where you perform one action, holding still for the entire duration of the move). You may be learning the plank exercise for the first time or you may already use it regularly in your workouts. But guess what? Most trainers consider the plank to be one of the most effective abs exercises.
Not only does it strengthen and firm your abs, but also works all the core muscles — the back, hips, etc.
Body Parts: Core
Reps: 1 Minute
How To Perform The Move
Place hands on the floor, wrists or elbows aligned under shoulders, and extend legs back so your body is straight from head to heels. Another version of this is a side plank (shown in photo), where the right hand is on the floor, aligned under shoulders, while the left arm rests on the thigh, the body is lifted off the floor, and the legs are stacked one on top of the other. Hold your position for 30 seconds to 1 minute. If performing the side plank, hold the position for 30 seconds, then switch to the other side (with the left hand on the floor, and the right arm resting on the thigh).
Joy is a obtainable. You can have joy. There is a difference between joy and happiness. Happiness is based on circumstances but joy is based on the Lord.
Have your morning cup of coffee in sight of the sunrise, or make it a point to see the sunset. Nature brims with the miracle of life — get outside and soak it in. Walk through a park listening for birds, watch clouds in a robin’s-egg-blue sky, go barefoot in lush grass, skip stones. Stop to smell those roses, and while you’re at it, buy some fresh flowers for the house
Don’t allow anger and rage to rule your life. Misdirected anger isn’t healthy. Consciously replace churning emotions with serene thoughts. Think of a particularly tranquil time at the ocean, or imagine yourself in a favorite soothing place. Find healthy ways to let off steam: exercise, make music, garden, paint, write out your thoughts in a journal. If you continue to feel overwhelmed or undermined, you can turn to prayer or professional assistance for help in handling upsetting feelings.
Before you get out of bed in the morning, think of something that makes you smile. Before you even brush your teeth, get your mental and visual focus on something that will warm your heart. Try putting a favorite picture — hospital photos of your newborns, the brand-new kitten, a perfect moment on a family vacation — on your bedside table. Look at it first thing in the morning. Starting off your day in a positive frame of mind will set your spiritual metabolism for the rest of the day. Smiles not only exercise muscles that fight frown lines, they actually boost your immune system.
Be forgiving. Forgiveness is an act of the will, an action you can take even when your heart and feelings seem to be lagging behind in bitterness. It might be impossible to forgive actual perpetrators, but you can hope and pray for transformation in them. In your own life, give up grudges and let go of old toxic memories. Reconcile with estranged friends and family members if you can, and commit yourself to giving others the measure of forgiveness you would like extended to you. Don’t sweat small grievances.
Nurture your family spirit. We live in a different world now, a world that needs love more than ever. Show your commitment to those you love in word and deed. “I love you” means a lot, and so do the actions that make the words more than greeting-card sentiment. So say it, show it, and hug a lot. Strengthening family ties cultivates stability in your home. See and call out-of-town family and nearby relatives more often. That family feeling can grow well beyond your natural kin.
When I think of my favorite shows growing up — the shows that really understood me, made me laugh and taught me something along the way — I think of BET’s old lineup. It definitely feels nostalgic now, but once upon a time BET was my go-to network for all of my entertainment needs.
Now, don’t get me wrong. There’s still some shows I enjoy today like Real Husbands of Hollywood and The Game, but there’s just something about old-school ComicView and Free and AJ that I can’t let go of.
Let’s take a stroll down memory lane of 5 BET shows that we miss, and a few that deserve a second chance.
1. Rap City: Tha Basement
Rap City: Tha Basement was more than just a freestyle rap show. It brought hip-hop and urban culture from around the country into our homes everyday. Whether you were a mainstream or underground artist, from the West Coast or East Coast, male or female, Rap City was diverse and it gave talent it’s time to shine. With its two-hour time slot, Rap City was proof that BET once focused its programming on authentic, musical-based content.
2. 106 & Park: BET Top 10 Live
No offense to the new 106 & Park hosts but no one can replace Free and AJ. When they hosted the top 10 countdown show it was new, fresh and full of energy. 106 and Park was our equalivant to MTV’s Total Request Live; it pushed our culture and style and presented our stars in a positive light. From video premieres to live performances and sit-down interviews to celebrity guest hosts, 106 & Park will always have a soft spot in the hearts of millennial musical lovers.
3. College Hill
College Hill did for reality TV what A Different World did for scripted television. It showed young African Americans in a collegiate setting and strayed away from stereotypical story lines. Although the show did receive criticism for it’s footage of college parties and fights, it represented young black students of all socioeconomic statuses as more that one-dimensional characters.
4. Teen Summit
Every Saturday, Teen Summit spoke to the black youth about the issues that affected us most. Whether it was bullying, gang violence or domestic abuse, we could always count on Teen Summit to keep it real — and positive.
5. Comic View
For all things funny, BET’s ComicView was a hilarious hit. Before black comedians were booking major movie and TV-show deals, their home was on BET every weeknight at 10 p.m. This stand-up show gave our comedians a platform to present their material and reach their core audiences.
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Has your guy been fairly silent in the 4-letter-word department, and you’re trying to figure out other ways to tell if he loves you? Sometimes, this can be hard; not everybody is vocal or obvious about their feelings, and many may feel it is difficult to voice those deeper emotions whether it’s for fear of rejection, commitment or simply never having said “I Love You” before.
Here are some subtle, silent ways to tell if he’s thinking it.
1. Passionate, Long-Lasting Kisses
Who doesn’t love an excellent, lengthy kiss? When he’s continuously initiating these and you can feel the passion each time he does, it is clear that he’s more than just a little excited to be around you.
2. His Friends Love You
If all his buddies are starting to warm up to you and truly seem to enjoy your company, it could be because they know how happy you’re making their friend — thus making them start to find you as awesome as he does.
3. Close Personal Distance
You know how it’s unnerving when somebody you’re not interested in gets close to you? It’s the complete opposite when someone you adore tends to be closer in distance than he is to other people.
4. Smiling After Kissing
Sure, you can have a little sweet smile after kissing someone whose company you enjoy, but do you ever just feel like positively beaming when it’s someone you love? If you catch him grinning after your kisses all the time, it’s a great sign that he truly enjoys your company.
5. He Listens Intently
While he might not be saying much when it comes to your relationship and his feelings about it, the fact that he listens closely when you’re talking is incredibly significant. He may lean in closer when you’re discussing important topics or nod when you say something poignant, showing how much your words mean to him.
6. Upright Posture
Most of us tend to slouch and have poorer posture than we should. However, if you’re trying to impress the person you care about most and want him or her to be most attracted to you, you’re going to stand or sit straight up.
7. Hand Squeezing
I once had a relationship with a guy who loved holding my hand and would occasionally squeeze it tightly when we were cuddling or out with friends, but hated any other kind of cutesy couple-like act. I always wondered why he was so opposed, but then I realized that every time he squeezed my hand, he was trying to say, “I love you” in a quiet, simple way.
8. Calling (Or Texting) For No Reason
Not all people do this when in love, so don’t take it personally if he doesn’t. That said, it’s a sign that he feels comfortable with you in non-romantic situations as well as the obvious ones, and that he’s thinking of you throughout the day.
Read more here…
We’ve been hearing about a mythical Apple “iWatch” for a while now, to varying degrees of credibility, but this one from the April issue of MacUser magazine is probably the prettiest—and most plausibly Apple—interpretation we’ve seen.
The design was cooked up by designer Martin Hajek—who’s done some spot-on renders for Gizmodo in the past—in close collaboration with the editors of MacUser. The goal was to make it something that they could realistically see themselves buying from an Apple Store, on a hunch that Apple would keep the design as “classic” as possible. The result is something far less visually offensive than some of the other concepts that have made the rounds.
Still, even a sharp-looking design like this highlights the difficulties of cramming iOS design language into a tiny watch screen, if that’s something Apple’s even doing. The weather and watch widgets look great, more or less, but check out that third panel, with the RSS/Tweetbot feed. Pretty cramped! There are ways out of that, like trimming down to a single feed on the screen at once, but that leaves you with a lot of swiping. We’re still waiting to see something that makes sense of putting the sheer amount of information that makes its way through our devices on the limited real estate of a watch face.
Does a relatively pretty render mean that an Apple smartwatch is imminent? Not at all, no. But this looks far more believable as an Apple product than anything else floating around out there. [MacUser via Martin Hajek]
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Below are twenty-five pieces of vital information that every man over 14 in the Western world should know. Every man. No excuses. Seriously. Seriously.
- Unbutton the bottom button of your jacket. It’s not intended to be buttoned.
- Same goes for your vest.
- Remove the tags on the sleeves of your jacket before you wear it.
- Jackets sometimes come with white basting thread on their shoulders or holding closed their vents. Remove this thread before wearing the jacket.
- Jacket pockets are intended to be opened. Use a small scissor or seam ripper.
- More than three jacket buttons is never appropriate for anything.
- On a three-button coat, buttoning the top button is optional, and some lapels are rolled so as to make the top button ornamental. In other words: if buttoning the top button seems wrong, it is.
- Brown shoes, brown belt. Black shoes, black belt.
- Belt or suspenders. Never belt and suspenders.
- Your jacket sleeve should be short enough to show some shirt cuff – about half an inch.
- Your pants should end at your shoes without puddling. A slight or half break means that there is one modest inflection point in the front crease. If your pants break both front and back or if they break on the sides, they’re too long.
- Your coat should follow and flatter the lines of your upper body, not pool around them. You should be able to slip a hand in to get to your inside breast pocket, but if the jacket’s closed and you can pound your heart with your fist, it’s too big.
- When you buy a suit or sportcoat, it should be altered to fit by a tailor. This will cost between $25 and $100.
- Your tie should reach your belt line – it shouldn’t end above your belt or below it.
- Your tie knot should have a dimple.
- Only wear a tie if you’re also wearing a suit or sportcoat (or, very casually, a sweater). Shirt, tie and no jacket is the wedding uniform of a nine-year-old.
- The only men who should wear black suits during the day are priests, undertakers, secret agents, funerals attendees and yokels.
- Cell phone holsters are horrible.
- So are square-toed shoes.
- Never wear visible socks with shorts.
- Or any socks with sandals.
- If your shirt is tucked in, you should be wearing a belt (or suspenders, if you’re wearing a jacket as well, or your trousers should have side adjusters and no belt loops).
- Flip flops are great for the pool and the beach and not great for anything else. (Some say this is a matter of taste. We agree. If you have any taste, you will only wear flip-flops at the beach or pool.)
- Long ties are not appropriate with a tuxedo.
- Never wear polyester outside of the gym or theme parties.
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You’ve read all the motivational messages that talk about how the fear of failure can prevent you from ever being a success. A lot of people are so afraid they’re going to fail to achieve their dreams that they never even make the attempt. But for some people, it’s the exact opposite. Some people actually sabotage themselves so they can’t achieve their dreams because they’re afraid of what will happen if they do.
How can someone be afraid of success? On the surface, it doesn’t make any sense. Success is a ‘good‘ thing, it’s failure that’s ‘bad’. So shouldn’t you be happy when you succeed? And if that’s the case, why would you be scared of success?
Some psychologists chalk this fear of success up to some Freudian father/son issue that originates in early childhood and others say it has its roots in bullying or abuse we may have received as a child that leaves us with a poor self-image. Essentially though it boils down to this: People who are scared of success are generally afraid of the changes that will come once they achieve that success, not the success itself. They’re not afraid to win. They’re afraid of what’s going to happen after the celebration.
Once you succeed at reaching your goal, then what? You usually have to set a higher, harder-to reach goal. Something new and better to strive for. A goal you might not feel you’ll be able to reach. After all, there comes a point where you’ve done your best and you just don’t have anymore to give. Maybe you feel like you’re not smart enough to go any further or you don’t have the necessary skills or commitment. If you’re afraid of not being up to that next challenge, you might find yourself sabotaging your own chances of success with the original challenge. Then you’ll never have to worry about what comes next.
Or maybe you don’t want the additional work or responsibility that comes with success. You know you’re up for a promotion at work. But along with that new title and the big raise, you’ll also have a lot more work to do and you’ll be responsible for an entire department instead of just your own little desk. You know you could never turn the promotion down so you do little things to sabotage your own success – you start coming in late or missing meetings or deliberately making mistakes. If you kill your chances of getting that promotion then you won’t have to worry about taking on the additional work and responsibility.
Some people are afraid they won’t be able to handle success. Will they be expected to act differently? Will they have to dress differently? Will people treat them differently? Will their friends be jealous? Will they have to abandon their old friends and start moving in new circles? Sometimes it’s easier just to maintain the status quo than go through the stressful changes that might occur when you become successful.
Some people are afraid they won’t really enjoy success once they achieve it. What if reaching that lofty goal completely changes their life in ways they can’t yet imagine? What if success isn’t really all it’s cracked up to be? What if having more money just complicates their life? Better to stay right where you are, where you’re content, than to risk being unhappy when you achieve success.
And some people have low self-esteem and just don’t feel they deserve to be successful. All their life they’ve had someone telling them they’re worthless or not deserving of the finer things in life so naturally that’s what they believe. To be successful at something and actually achieve a goal or receive a reward would be contrary to everything they believe.
So you see, there are any number of reasons that people are scared of success. The trick is learning to recognize the signs that might indicate your one of those people. Do you find yourself constantly coming within spitting distance of success and then it suddenly slips through your fingers? Do you always blame your failures on someone else or some outside influence? If so, then maybe you’re guilty of self-sabotage because you’re afraid of success.
The next time you feel success slipping away, stop and look at the situation. Are you doing something subconsciously to make yourself fail? And if so, what is it you’re afraid of? Confront your fears head on, with commitment and determination, and give yourself permission to succeed. After all, you’ve earned it.
What do you think?
The strongest confidence is quiet confidence. It does not boast and is not arrogant. Quiet confidence pays no attention to those who ridicule it simply because of their own insecurities. Quiet confidence does what is right, no matter what others may think.
Quiet confidence is built from substance, and is not just made for show. It is genuine and as such, it is powerful. Quiet confidence does not seek the easy way out. Quiet confidence finds the true and the right way through whatever situations or obstacles there are. It makes no grand promises. Yet it delivers much value.
Quiet confidence is not overly concerned with appearances. Quiet confidence simply gets things done. You don’t always see it, nor do you often think about it. Yet quiet confidence works tirelessly behind the scenes, bringing you many good and valuable things.
Quiet confidence is real, persistent confidence that makes a positive difference every day. Try some yourself, and see how much real and lasting value it can add to your world.
— Ralph Marston
Tired of nothing
It’s certainly true that the effort necessary for accomplishment will make you tired. And yet the lack of any effort at all will surely bring on an even greater amount of weariness.
It’s far better to be exhausted from focused effort than to be tired of doing nothing. After you’ve grown tired from productive effort, you can renew your energy with a little bit of rest and relaxation.
But when you’re tired because of a lack of meaningful effort, that’s a different story. No amount of rest can overcome such weariness.
What can overcome that kind of weariness? It will disappear as soon as you start to take purposeful, directed action.
Too much of anything will make you tired, especially too much of nothing. If you’re going to be tired, then make sure you gain something valuable from it.
So go ahead, set your sights high, and do something truly useful and challenging with your time. You’ll make yourself tired, and it will feel great.
— Ralph Marston